Why I Chose This Path: Redefining What Success and Freedom Mean to Me

It’s always surprising to me how many people automatically assume that companions - or those in similar professions - are in this line of work because they must be desperate or somehow incapable of pursuing any other career path. There’s a stereotype that this is a last resort, a desperate choice made out of necessity rather than desire. But, for me personally, the reality couldn’t be more different.

Personally, I could have had an incredible career by now. I have been fortunate to attend some of the top schools, and it turns out I’ve been naturally gifted with my brains too - not just my curves! Growing up, the expectation was that I would follow a traditional path of success: prestigious jobs, impressive titles, and climbing the corporate ladder. That path was certainly available to me. I was prepared for it, and honestly, I could have thrived there.

But what I realized early on, and what continues to resonate with me every day, is that life is about more than just titles and accolades. What I wouldn’t have now, if I had chosen that route, is something I value massively: time and freedom.

Time to wake up on my own schedule. Freedom to book a flight the same day to a destination I want to visit just because I feel like it. The luxury of spending quality, uninterrupted time with my family, especially as the elders age and moments grow precious. The joy of spending entire days reading on my balcony, soaking up the sun, and feeling absolutely no guilt about it - even if it might seem like the routine of a 70-year-old retiree to some.

Yes, I could have pursued a prestigious “title” by now. I don’t have much of an ego, though, so I haven’t felt the need to chase one. Staying under the radar is just fine by me. And sure, I could have endured grueling 80-hour work weeks, becoming an essential cog in someone else’s billion-dollar-making machine, but what would be the point if it meant sacrificing the very essence of living? For me, that kind of glory isn’t really glory at all.

Instead, I chose a different way: a way that allows me to enjoy life fully, every day. One that lets me be selective about who I spend my time with. Lately, I’ve become increasingly picky, which has meant that most of my dates aren’t quick hotel room encounters. They are often leisurely lunch or dinner dates, or even extended trips lasting several days or weeks. This approach to meeting others is not only more genuine but also far more enriching. It’s a more efficient and enjoyable way of dating compared to the endless swiping on apps, and it fosters deep connections for both parties involved.

So next time someone asks me or wonders why I’m doing this, this is exactly why. It’s not about desperation or lack of options. It’s about choosing freedom, time, connection, and a quality of life that many don’t think about when chasing the traditional markers of success. And honestly? I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Want to be part of this little life of mine? Book a date :)